The War On Friends

“He has no enemies, but is intensely disliked by his friends.”
~Oscar Wilde

It's been a long since I took a walk to think about the things that have been happening in my life. Lately, that has been a lot, too much to put on here. It would actually probably have to take up an entire book to fill up with everything that has happened since my last post. The thing however, that I have been thinking about the most are friends.

With current situations, things have shifted the group to taking sides, talking behind each others backs, and sometimes even getting revenge. It has also led to the tearing apart of some very important friendships. Some that were once like a flower, something that bloomed so beautifully then the care stopped and it wilted into the pile of dirt it was planted in.

It made me look at things a different way about myself and the things around me. I needed to look at things from the outside, and when I did, I was surprised to see what had happened. It was like a war had happened. A tornado of drama and the opposite force came whirling in. Soldiers took their sides, even if they didn't know what was going on or which side to go on. They all lined up, taking position with their swords and they charged across the valley. The one most important thing they all forgot was their armor.

I watched all of it happen from the stoop of a hillside. I can remember the clashing of colors, the red blood spilling from their mouths, and the sound of screams echoed off the basin of the valley. There were no dead, but close. The wounds ran deep in many and scratches covered all, as the battle ended and the sides walked away.

Even after a big battle, the war will always continue. The sad thing is, is that most of the group doesn't understand this and try to fight fire with fire. (cliché I know but it fits perfectly here if I do say so myself.)
There is a resting period in this war.

We have all lost who were are. I can see that. We are all questioning ourselves, who are we, where do we want to go, what are we supposed to do with our lives? Questions like this and more all run through our head and it's sad that no one will step back with me and look and try to take time for themselves.

If you all want the secret to a successful friendship here it is....
You won't always be friends.

Friends are here and they are your family for now, but they won't always be there. You have to depend on yourself sometimes and have to realize that shit is going to happen with each other, whether it be because of some stupid plans that went south for a birthday party.

The thing we all need to know is that if you are all friends, no one will take sides. No one.

“A true friend stabs you in the front.”
~Oscar Wilde

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JW